Andrea Writes Two Point… Ohhhh

Andrea Writes Two Point… Ohhhh

March 13, 2015

Hello world, again,

I went and did something crazy.

This website, which has existed since around 2012, which is on business cards, on about.com, AngelList (a platform for startups), on resumes, is blank now. On purpose.

It wasn’t going to be.

Changing of the host

I’m easy distracted. In January as my hosting was about to end with my previous hosting company, I bought hosting with a different company. And while I began to export my food and wellness website to import under the new host, I got distracted and never completed it. I clicked one button, then stopped because squirrel! I subsequently, after changing the settings necessary, realized when it was too late and that I hadn’t exported this site either.

This in itself didn’t kill the content forever, it just meant that I had to transfer my sites via file transfer (FTP) and importing my databases. More time consuming, it is.

I did export my databases from the previous host, so I had the content. This content needed to move to their new homes. It took me 3 weeks to get my food and wellness site back up with all of its content dating back to 2008 because I was having database issues and tech support for my new host isn’t well educated in mySQL databases, under the belief that mySQL is WordPress’s area (I think they should have the ability to adequately support it, but anyway…). Because that’s the site I used most often, I sat on this one for awhile until I decided to commence the migration. This site is on business cards and such, but it wasn’t priority yet. I was going to migrate all the old content over as if this was the same old site.

This week something occurred to me: I didn’t WANT to migrate the old content. It’s not that I didn’t want to put in the effort, it’s that I set up this site as my “portfolio” or “business” site but didn’t do much with it. I wrote a couple dozen posts over a couple of years and changed its focus - it’s a business blog – no, it’s a place to sell myself as a writer – no, it’s a blog for everything that doesn’t belong on my other site – no… but it mostly stayed dormant. Some of those posts were excellent, I thought. I enjoyed my “to date or not to date” blog posts, and the version of “15 Ways to Pitch Your Blogger”, a slightly different version of which I also published on my food & wellness blog. That one got a bunch of comments and shares here.

But now I see that Andrea Writes has potential and I’m not certain what that is. I recently determined that one of the things missing from my other website is a brand, and have determined that if I’m going to keep this site, I should have some form of brand consistency.

So if you’re holding onto my business card right now, or got here from a link on a professional networking site, welcome and know that this site – like my life – is in transition. More on that last part later.

And there you go. Exciting changes are afoot.

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Old Post: How to Network Without Knowing It & Have Fun

March 18, 2015

Welcome to “Old Post Wednesday”, where I repost some of the entries from the previous iteration of this website, until all the posts I liked the most are all up.

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How to network without knowing it & have fun

Last week, like a 6 year old, I asked a fellow blogger if he wanted to be my friend. I said it without any self-consciousness whatsoever, but acknowledged to myself that he might find it odd. Adults don’t do that.

I didn’t say it exactly like that at first, but I’ll get to that.

Have you found that it’s harder to make friends and to generally meet people after you graduate college/university? Have you noticed that the same advice is used whether you want to make friends or find someone to date?

“Go where people who share your interests are.”

This is the premise behind Meetup and social groups that bring people together online for offline activities such as hobbies and sports.

I used to have dating profiles on a couple of dating websites. For awhile my profile said something like this:

“I’m not necessarily looking for “the one”, but ‘expanding the network’. If it doesn’t work out between us, maybe we have friends who we can set each other up with.”

Pair of CoffeesI once went on a date with a guy who I didn’t see it happening with. I told him that I’d be interested in being friends. I meant it. I never said that if I didn’t mean it. In response he got huffy and informed me that he doesn’t “need any more friends”. When I pointed out what I’d written in my profile, he told me that he thought I was just saying that. Not my problem. Most people lie, I guess. I’ve been socializing online for about 20 years and I’ve always been my true self. No bullshit. The difference is, offline me is more shy. Introverts like me are drawn to blogging.

One of my best friends is someone I met on a dating website. We got along great but for whatever reason, I decided not to date him. He’s an awesome networker though and keeps in touch. We were in sporadic contact for years before meeting at a party (he shouted my email address across the room because he blanked on my name) and became friends. My current boyfriend, with whom I was friends first, is a lot like him.

Another thing I’ve found: Often when I meet people in groups there’s little time to talk, and sometimes I meet the same person repeatedly in groups of people but don’t really talk to them. Then, what could be months or years later, we finally click. I recently had my first one-on-on conversation with someone I’ve known for over two years.

Every time I go to a professional networking event – tweetups, meetups, “-camps”, “-cons” – I inevitably say to someone regarding networking events:

So back to the story I began telling at the top, here’s a transcription of the instant messaging conversation with this fellow blogger:


Me: “Let’s meet up for lunch in the next couple of weeks. Been meaning to propose it for awhile. I feel like we’d hit it off.”
(I considered saying something like “I feel like we should be friends”.)

Him: “you wanna be my girlfriend? go steady?”
(I was so glad he said that because it’s the exactly the kind of smart-ass comment I’d have made and even though this was text, I detected a smile – no emoticon necessary. )

Me: “I was afraid it would sound that way but I have a boyfriend and I’m not your type.”
(He’s gay.)

Him: “I expected so haha”

Me: “I almost added that it sounded awkwardly like ‘want to be my friend?’ ”

Then he started asking me some questions about my blogging and working style and while answering them, I was still on the real “friend request” with messages,

“I kind of was asking if you wanted to be my friend.” and
“People are too busy to turn acquaintances into friends. Gotta integrate it into work!”


And that’s it. People are too busy, or they’re focused on one end goal. In this case, I see this blogger at the occasional PR event. I think he’s an awesome photographer. I have a business idea and I’ve been thinking of asking him if he wants to be a part of it, though I didn’t get to that in our conversation.

I’ll say it again:

“You never know if you’ll meet your new best friend, your next business partner or the love of your life.”

And to me, that’s networking.

As I advised a friend two years ago, “Get out, meet people and eat cupcakes”. Hell, just say “hi”.

Jumping Without a Net

March 17, 2015

AvivaQuote

In my last post I wrote, “The Universe has been bashing me over the head with the “leave your day-job industry and go out on your own” message recently.”

This is yet another example, sent last Tuesday. My friend Aviva started her newsletter with this quote and attributed it to a former theatre school professor. I don’t usually reply to people’s newsletters but I replied with this:

Beautiful! The quote you started with made me laugh because it’s one more examples of synchronicity in my life right now, another sign of the Universe/my inner guide metaphorically grabbing me by the shoulders and shaking me. It’s as if the Universe is saying, “In case you haven’t been listening, LOOK AT THIS!” :) The Universe is turning into a nagging Jewish mother. I inwardly answered with an eye roll.

The quote spoke to me.

This is Aviva, a JUNO Award nominated musician (the Canadian music awards) that matter to people over th eage of 20. This is the newsletter it was in.

Steve Jobs on being fulfilled

March 13, 2015

Steve Jobs on being fulfilledNew-old website post #2: I suppose I could use it Tumblr-style.

I found this post about a week and a half ago, days before my birthday. You know the idea of the universe sending you messages, and synchronicity? This quote came when I needed it. So did the next one I’ll post. The Universe has been bashing me over the head with the “leave your day-job industry and go out on your own” message recently. The Universe wins.